Mummy guilt is a bit crap isn’t it?! Sometimes I wonder why we don’t give ourselves a break, I really do. I am constantly feeling guilty about one thing or another….not listening to music practice properly, getting the big bears to look after the littlest bear too much, letting them have too much screen time, not making the beds everyday, not walking the dog for long enough, not phoning the grandparents enough, not doing my own ironing (I send it out! shhhhh), not replying to emails or texts and then forgetting about them, saying I’ll go to something and then being too knackered to actually go, missing friends birthdays, not going to the gym enough to validate my ridiculously expensive membership fee, being late for school pickup, being late for school drop off, being late for most things…..arghhhhh the list could go on and on!!!
But then sometimes I think to myself, sod it…I’m doing the best that I can, my kids are happy and healthy and loving school, my husband gets a home cooked dinner on the table most evenings, the house is kept relatively clean and tidy and organised and sometimes (sometimes) there’s nothing on my to-do-list. That’s ok isn’t it?
I get so fed up with the guilt that occasionally I go totally against the rule book and I don’t take the kids to the playground/theme park/cinema, spend hours building lego/playdough/jigsaws, arrange lovely playdates/parties/dinners and instead, I allow us, as a family, to spend the whole day doing nothing. Nada. Nill. Not a thing. And usually we do it….in our pyjamas (collective intake of shocked breath) – so what?!
I’m not ashamed, in fact I’m rather proud of our occasional days of nothing, no pressure, no clock watching, no visitors, no plans, just all of us hanging out together watching rubbish tv and getting a takeaway (do I hear another collective intake of shocked breath?!). Did you imagine because I love to cook that we never get a take away? Nonsense….we love a take away! And we’re lucky enough to have some great gdfree places nearby that very kindly agree to deliver their delicious gdfree food right to our very lazy doorstep! We have a Chinese that lists everything on its menu with allergens and will make things specially for you if you request it, we have an Indian which offers nearly 90% of it’s menu as gdfree and we even have an award winning fish and chippie that offer gluten free fish and chips mon-thurs.
So…to help alleviate those guilty moments I have come up with a super store-cupboard-ingredient casserole that really hits the spot in those moments of can’t-be-bothered-to-cookness. It contains 1 pack of sausages, 5 tins from the cupboard and a pint of seasoned stock. The only thing you have to chop is an onion. ok maybe two onions, but that’s it I promise.